tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4708181143123805296.post7926466396942645856..comments2023-08-29T09:04:20.082-05:00Comments on Mandigirl Muses: Leaping LepersAmandahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18084180906313665734noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4708181143123805296.post-76956780646836945232007-10-09T23:37:00.000-05:002007-10-09T23:37:00.000-05:00My sweet little one was a real baby, I know. My r...My sweet little one was a real baby, I know. My rambling in my blog was my attempt at portraying all the thoughtless things said to James and I when times were harder and even still.<BR/><BR/>As for the new normal we now live in, we're still trying to work that out. We know we have love and support from our circle of friends, but it's necessary to determine for ourselves what we can and cannot do any longer.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17947781000475730332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4708181143123805296.post-92089123966519178102007-10-01T10:30:00.000-05:002007-10-01T10:30:00.000-05:00I really could not love you more. You're so bruta...I really could not love you more. You're so brutally honest and that's truly a good thing ... whether it makes people uncomfortable at times or not. For those of us who have never lost a baby, it's hard in a whole different way. We so want to encourage you, to uplift you, to ease your pain - things that are impossible. And so we're left feeling completely helpless, TERRIFIED of saying the wrong thing, so we say nothing. You lost a baby ... more than one (very real babies, regardless of their ages when they died). And there is no easy answer to that process, and no magic words to heal. You have every right to go through any and all of these feelings. It may make us all uncomfortable at times, but it's OKAY for you to bawl at a baby shower ... and we, as your friends, can handle that. We want to handle that. Make no apologies for who you are, for how you feel and for where you're at ... and know that although we always want to have the right words, we probably won't. But we pray for you and love you and will walk the path with you.Randi~Dukes and Duchesseshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08277985792260962440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4708181143123805296.post-19366679170177075892007-10-01T07:20:00.000-05:002007-10-01T07:20:00.000-05:00I am crying for you right now... I am right here ...I am crying for you right now... I am right here with you. Beside you. Always! Even this far down the road. This many chapters into your story. I am here! Relating to you and accepting you right where you are. <BR/><BR/>I understand you! I understand the frustration... "The pain of the loss is not enough. Now I have to live this 'different life'?!? Now I've lost myself and my friends too?!?" It is all so unfair! <BR/><BR/>You are not weird or a leper or scary or strange or unpleasant or infectious. You are Amanda! My friend. My friend that is learning to live a new life. A life that you did not plan or want. A hard life. <BR/><BR/>He was a baby! They all were. A real live child! You have every right to know that and accept that! You knew the plans and dreams that you had for him just like you know the plans and dreams that you have for your 2 very obvious kids at home. He was yours! <BR/><BR/>You are a great friend. A fun person. A caring person. A wonderful person. A different person than you were a few years ago. That is okay. <BR/><BR/><BR/>I love that you put your feelings out there. They are beautiful and real. <BR/><BR/>You are going to make it to a place of peace. I promise. <BR/><BR/>'My grace is sufficient for you,<BR/>my power is made perfect in weakness.'<BR/><BR/>I love you. All of you. Right where you are.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15181823660587876691noreply@blogger.com